How to Overcome Vulnerability

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Vulnerable (adj) - Being susceptible to physical or emotional attack or harm.

There are about 5 different types of vulnerability.

  • Physical Vulnerability

  • Economic Vulnerability

  • Social Vulnerability

  • Attitudal Vulnerability

  • Emotional Vulnerability

I’m not going to be able to get into all of them in-depth, but what I do want to get into is Emotional Vulnerability. As it is something I myself struggle with.

About Emotional Vulnerability

Plenty of people experience it and they don’t know how to overcome it or how to escape being emotionally vulnerable. For someone that had to overcome this on their own, I gotta tell you - it isn’t easy at all.

I’m still working to surpass this. Every day I get closer to getting over being emotionally vulnerable but when I say it isn’t easy, it isn’t easy.

You think you’re over it. You think that you can move on and live the life you always wanted to live! When something comes along and slaps you across the face, putting you back at the beginning, having to go over everything once more.

I don’t have much advice or rather, I don’t want to give you some advice and it not working for you because it seemed to work for me. How everyone overcomes this type of stuff is different for every person in the whole world. I’m one person on a screen talking about emotional vulnerability, I can’t help you entirely but I can help you get started.

Also! Just know that being vulnerable isn’t bad - but being too vulnerable can lead to big problems.

Overcoming the Inevitable 

In the beginning, it’s difficult. You’re unsure of where to start. Everything seems big and scary, and issues will be coming at you from every direction. You feel as if you’ll never escape this never-ending circle.

First, don’t feel overwhelmed or pressured to get over this vulnerability quickly. This takes a lot of time and you shouldn’t feel as if you should get over it right away. Take it slow and at your own steady pace. 

If you are able to overthrow it quickly? Congrats! If you aren’t? Then that’s okay! You aren’t obligated to overthrow it quickly.

Second, take a deep breath and don’t react immediately if someone or something hurts or attacks you. Think it over, is it worth to react? Is it worth showing that it hurt you? It may be worth it, but sometimes it’s just easier to leave it alone than let them continue mocking you. Easier for them to get a reaction out of you if they know that it hurts you.

Third, vent to someone if you have to! Keeping all these emotions in will seriously repress them and you’ll never be able to be vulnerable when you absolutely need to be. Venting will help you, even if you don’t think so!

Fourth repeat if necessary. Nothing is absolute, you may be back at the beginning over and over and you’ll feel as if it hasn’t worked but you shouldn’t give up. Take it slow, don’t rush and don’t give up when you end up back at the beginning. You’re a gem! Just remember that.  

Overcoming vulnerability is nice, great even but sometimes it’s okay to be vulnerable. It helps with growth and could really help you along the way.

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Kaden

Kaden’s a small second year professional writing student. They’re a hard working, loud student who wishes to be someone aspiring as the years go on. They love to read and write more than anything - online stories and more. If you’re looking for a good story, they’re the one to hit up! They can sing, they can knit - they can’t do everything, but they’re sure to try.